You have to figure out if you’re in a relationship, or if you’re just calling it one. (-Sheldon’s mom)

I love that TV show (The Big Bang Theory) for its geeky humor and its caricatures. I love it for Penny’s new hairdo and because every once in a while I am delivered a nugget of wisdom so stunning it makes my head spin. Whether it’s because it ties so neatly to what I’m pondering […]

Words of a tether: the tie that binds, or marriage by any other name

My friend Steph says that if you haven’t put a ring on her finger, you don’t get to call her your wife. I get that. I agree with her. Now that marriage has arrived in my neighborhood, most of the well-worn excuses for not marrying your girlfriend (squeeze, babe, fiancée, fill in the blank) have disappeared here […]

Lesbian dress-for-success: what does your look say about you?

As I do often, today I have been pondering the butch-femme continuum: it’s one of my favorite  conversations. This dialog is unending because the nuances are as varied as the women who wear the clothes…or lipstick, or chains, or boots, or tee-shirts, or fill-in-the-blank. We know the stereotypes: High Femme, Stone Butch, Androgynous, Mother-Earth, and […]

If you have to go to lesbian couples’ therapy in the first year you are in trouble.

When a relationship is new, let’s say at three months, you should still be lusting it up, feeling good, unable to get enough of each other. If, instead, you find yourself confronted by a demand for couples’ therapy six weeks into dating, then cut your losses. Unless the sex is so incredible that you’re willing […]

Can you “flip” a straight girl? (contributed by Angie)

Happy Pride 2018, Fort Lauderdale! I am often accused of being too literal. I like the play of words, I often focus on semantics.  Words are very important in my world – lesbian, gay, straight, bi, married, wife, girlfriend, squeeze, lover, your ex.  As our political and legal landscapes have been changing, so, too the […]